Citytv Forums

My best friends' parents have recently divorced. Even though she is an adult she still finds it hard- what if...

We have known each other since kindergarden and our families have even gone on holidays together.

I've always liked her parents as well

Does anyone have an idea as to how to support her as well as how to visit with her parent's. My paren't are also finding this difficult

---

sing like no one's listening
dance like no one's watching

Annie, You can be supportive by just being open and honest.  Since you have had such a long relationship with the family it should be o.k to let them know you are unsure about how to act in these new circumstances.  Don't get dragged into picking sides....it could come back and bite you!  My advice is proceed with caution...this is a delicate emotional situation.

I have two cousins that are divorced. My aunt and uncle have always been open about including their former daughter-in-law and son-in-law in all family events because after all, they are the parents of my aunt/uncle's grandchildren. They don't choose sides, always offer an invitation and aren't offended when an invitation is declined. I think the main points I'm trying to make are that you can still be friends with your best friend's parents and thus not choose sides or ostracize (spelling?) either one; and give them the message that you still think they are special people and you are willing to be there when they need you.

As for your best friend, just being available for her to talk to is support enough. She will let you know what she needs.