I've had suspicions these last couple of years that my boyfriend of 8 years is on the "down low" - having sex with men.
I catch these fleeting "moments" between he and other men, be it in the grocery store, restaurant, walking down the street, waiting for me in a mall. More or less, it's like fleeting glances in more than a casual way, could be an exchange of small cough or turn of the head. I have walked up to him from behind while he has waited for me at a mall a few times and found him not far from another man exchanging looks. A couple of times I've turned around and found him giving full smiles to men behind me.
My boyfriend has been "overly" homophobic from the time I met him (not that that is a good thing). I have approached him on my observations and he says I'm misreading him and launches into this homophobic tirade and why don't I trust him. Did I mention we haven't had intimate relations in over 2 years?
We have shared some truly loving memories over the 8 years together. But if he is on the dl, I'm lost and resigned to end the relationship. Does any one else have experience in working through this situation.