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Last post 07-06-2008, 5:15 PM by AnneAngel!. 17 replies.
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  •  03-04-2008, 12:33 AM 348283

    kids having kids

    I see more and more kids having kids. 15-20 year olds should not be having kids yet. Its way to young to be even think about kids.Yes, i know most arent planned but if thats the case then the parents have to step up  and explain to their kids (at a young age) why its better to wait,that having a kid wont make the boyfriend stay and that if they need to love someone to get a pet. That way they can practice being a parent on a dog or cat.PETS need loving too.Im sick and tired of hearing girls wanting to be treated like adults,well girls protect yourself dont have a kid at a young age  and maybe just maybe then you will get treated like an adult.Im 23 years old,Im trying to take care of myself (its hard )but thats life.I might have kids  in the future.But in the mean time i'll have pets. Having a kid at any age is hard, let alone in teenage years...Tell me what you think about this subject! inlighten me!!!Make me understand if im wrong to say  this....
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  •  03-21-2008, 10:39 PM 349671 in reply to 348283

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    kids are looking for love in all the wrong places.  Maybe its because they were raised by parents that were never home, broken marriages.Also young people are being sexualized way too early by the movies they watch, the internet and the music they listen to.  Have you seen the clothes they are making for 5year olds now?? I am rambling because there are so many issues that contribute to teenagers having babies. But I think that teens need attentive and involved parents, so they don't subsitute sex and babies in a search for a loving stable home.
  •  03-25-2008, 11:02 AM 349931 in reply to 348283

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    I too agree that having children at too young of an age is wrong. I believe that some of the imagies on t.v. don't help. I mean how many young people are portraited as having sex but never getting pregnant and do the children realize that they probably won't have nanny's to help them raise their children? You would think they would learn more by watching Britney Spears, a troubled young woman. I also believe that our taxes shouldn't need to cover free daycare, social assistance etc.

     


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  •  03-25-2008, 3:59 PM 349978 in reply to 349671

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     Actually was just watching a talk show and the woman who was on is only in her 20's who has 4 children. She is thinking of leaving them cause she can't stand  everything. She says the children are always running around and stuff. If she is old enough to have 4 kids then she should be old enough to disipline them properly As for missing out on stuff too bad that  is what she chose. Lot's of people miss out on things and they didn't have any control about that


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  •  04-14-2008, 6:32 PM 352036 in reply to 348283

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    Years ago (am now 50 years old) I had my first child at 16, was pregnant at 15 to a 18 year old boy that  was my best friend for 1 1/2.  I do understand how a thing like that could happen.   For those who don't understand and want to be enlightened.  My story was that I was raised my father being an alcoholic and he and my mother were fighting all the time. My mother didn't have anyone to confide in except in us kids. Dealing with adult issues when I was so young changed who I could have become.  When you have alcoholism in your family, your world is not normal. You don't feel loved, you don't feel safe and you don't feel like you matter. 

     I had no self esteem, I was depressed all of my childhood years. My existance was never validated or appreciated.  I fended up finding comfort in "an adultlike" relationship and was very scared to lose the only one person  that noticed that I was alive  . Mother didn't have the energy to deal with my pregnancy she told me to leave and my father was blurred by his own illness. 

    I took my responsibilities since I knew that I was the only one that had the problem... It was a rough road for me. My mother always remained to this day in the background.  I know now how important parenting is.  Having a pet (which I wasnt' allowed)to have ). couldn't have giving me what a child needs from their parents.......It's so important to make your child feel that he's welcomed into the word, that he counts, that he's important.  Because if you are not.......you are left feeling alone.  Dealing with loneliness is very difficult for adults but for a child to feel alone and abandon, they don't have the tools to deal with it.

    So, this a one reason why teenage pregnancy happens,

    Gis

  •  04-14-2008, 7:05 PM 352039 in reply to 352036

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    I congratulate you for all life has dealt you. It must have been so difficult but it sounds as if you made this situation possitive.

    Sometimes I think the media  just portrays teens having babies in a negative way and we don't get the whole storry.

    Take care


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  •  04-16-2008, 2:07 PM 352175 in reply to 352039

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    Thanks for reading my long message AnneAngel.  It's nice to know that my message was heard.

    Gis

  •  04-16-2008, 2:33 PM 352180 in reply to 352175

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    You are right all the media shows is the negative factors regarding children having children. They never say the difficultys a child may have had grown up in that situation.

    It is kinda the same in regards to all the bad teenagers out there who are involved in crime and stuff. They certainly don't  talk about the positive teenagers. I mean why not put a nasty hockey fight  between two teenangers on t.v. instead of hockey players doing something possitive for the community.

    I think it is time we get the full story before we decide what the issue is.

    Look at Britney Spears. Her life is really in shambles but perhaps it has something to with her upbringing


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  •  04-16-2008, 3:38 PM 352196 in reply to 352180

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    So the message is loud and clear parents out there ....be there for your kids...They need your attention, support and love more than ever when they are in their teen years !!!!!!
  •  04-16-2008, 7:04 PM 352215 in reply to 352196

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    Actually isn't it ironic that parents can't handle their children and need " The Nanny" to come in our want to send them to Boot Camp.

    How many of the parents don't raise their children properly. I mean if you don't learn to put your toys in the toy box when you are little or your parents don't want you to treat them with respect is it any wonder they turn out they do.


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  •  04-16-2008, 7:34 PM 352222 in reply to 348283

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    I see where your coming from but....

    if your going to attack young parents keep in mind those who intentially wait to be old to have kids as well.

    Is it really fair to themselves or thier children to wait till your 40+ to have children? I know some people who are in thier 30s and are anything but perfect parents. Sure, age may have something to do with what an individual can deal with finianically and emotionally but young parents are not always bad parents. Some of those young parents come from very loveing families and are, in some cases, more able to care for thier young then some people who have spent the last 30 odd years thinking only of themselves.

    Personally I am looking forward to having kids and I am 19. I'm in college and trying to establish career oppertunities that will enable me to provide for my future children. I have been with my boyfriend 3 years, and we both look forward to starting a family. Don't get me wrong I am aware I am young but I still want to provide the best possible enviroment for my children.

    Note; Pets are not the same as kids. It annoys me when people treat thier pets like PEOPLE. Then again, I grew up on a farm and see animals ina  totally different light.

     

    Thank you for you time

  •  04-17-2008, 8:07 AM 352244 in reply to 352222

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    In regards to children while I don't have any I agree with you in that point. If you are mature at any age then a child is for you. One of the difficulties with having a child so early in life is the fact that you have not finished growing up-going travelling, hainging out with your friends and getting a good education but then again how many "mature" couples out there have nanies to look after their children? Some of them have such busy lives and then socializing they don't have time to enjoy their children.

    If you are in a secure relationship I don't think age matters.

    Just another thought


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  •  04-19-2008, 8:36 PM 352538 in reply to 348283

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    Have been a young mother, I had an interesting conversation with one lady that starting a family in her mid 30's. First having a son, then having twins.  We sat down one day taking turns on the pros and cons of having kids either when you're young and later on in life......

    She said....................................................I said.......................................

    I have less patience as I get older                 I had more patience when I was younger

    I did all of my travelling                                I can now travel

    I don't have the energy that I had before        I used to have a lot of energy for the kids when I was young

    I don't like playing games with the kids         I was young and still love to play games

    I have my career and kids it eats my energy  I don't have a great career but I do have a lot of time to spend with the kids

    I feel old                                                     HUH?

  •  06-18-2008, 8:35 PM 356957 in reply to 352538

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    I think RAISING children is one of the most difficult things in the world. My husband jokes that it just took just a few minutes to conceive them. It's true though - a lifetime of commitment follows those few moments. No matter what age you are, raising a child can be challenging. You just hope that you can do the best you can for that child.

    I have to congratulate the Ontario government for supporting the Ontario Early Years centres - these are great 0-6 centres with programs and support for mothers, fathers, children and families as a whole. The regional health programs are also providing great support to families - at least this is my opinion because of the screening, developmental assessments and programs we have been offered with our two kids.

  •  07-05-2008, 1:17 AM 358328 in reply to 356957

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    I have to disagree I don't think raising kids is difficult.  Difficulty to me is having life threatening health issues, not being able to provide shelter and food for your family. Having a loving and caring relationship is easy, raising your child comes naturally. Just as your child is learning about the world you as parents are learning and becoming wiser.  The wisdom you have will guide you in raising your child. 

    Raising kids is easy, you just need to love them unconditionally, teach them, guide them, give them your attention and time. They will grow up on you before you know it and the precious time you take for granted today is gone. 

    Sure its great to have support different local and provincial programs. But at the end of the day its you as a parent(s) that has the most influence in shaping how and who your child will be. 

    Rasing kids gives you hope, love, happiness and life. 

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